It’s a blessing and a curse ...

This is a familiar line from the Monk detective series. Adrian Monk is usually talking about his skills as a detective - who happens to have OCD.

I have been thinking about something rather different: beauty.

Is the gift of beauty a blessing or a curse?

I’ve heard that it is advisable to use beauty as a business and career asset. What do you think? Have you done it? Does your CV or Resume have - listed under transferrable skills and assets - the legend beauty shown?

I have just been wondering how, if you are beautiful, you go about enhancing this attribute to your best advantage, you know, for rapid career progression.

I know many beautiful people and they have said that being seen as attractive is more often than not a curse because they suffer from the lack of genuine observation of their intelligence or their personality.

They sometimes wish their gift of beauty away or hide it beneath clothes and behaviour. Is this fair?

This made me think about what else, as a natural phenomenon could be used as a business asset?

Should any birthright be cultivated for a career? Maybe Tyra Banks could give me some answers on this ... then more people could become the Top Model in their particular field.  

It's not fair!

It’s unfair!

I know it’s unfair.

I could list a whole string of events and situations that I think are unfair and I’m sure that anyone could do the same. They could do it right now, without a second thought. A long list could appear that will detail all the unfair things in my world, in your world, in THE world.

I know that it is an undeniable fact that things happen in this world that ARE unfair.

The question that I need to answer when this happens is what am I going to do about it?

I’m not a fighter by nature but sometimes you have to struggle to achieve your goals. You have to fight to gain the change you need.

You have to put the effort in to achieve your dream result.

You have to get training.

It’s time to get into the training mode.

I know that this is my time.

This is it.

I have found my gentle and determined fighter within and I am active to make things fair, to make them different, and to make a change.

Yes and No

I was reminded yesterday of something I have been saying to my younger sister for years, I have been telling her to think about saying ‘yes’ to people all the time because she is effectively saying ‘no’ to herself at the same time.
My advice to her seems to have helped her. I’m pleased for that.
Now it’s time for me to take my own advice.
I have been a people-pleaser for too many years to count: if you make them happy then they’ll like you – right?
Maybe.
But the flip side is they may like you for the time when you are pleasing them and making all their dreams come true, but will you like yourself?
Are you happy saying ‘no’ to yourself repeatedly?
Is it fair to deny yourself when you really want to say ‘yes, yes, yes’ to the things, time, space, peace … that you crave?
I think ... balance is required.
A little more ‘me time’ so that the resentment will fade and the happiness can be shared between you … and me.
Sounds fair, don’t you think?

‘Yes’

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