When you love something obviously horrible it is usually because that thing is a temporary substitute - a lesser evil, if you will - for something much worse. This could be anything from facing hidden physical and emotional issues to smoking. The loved object (or place) brings a relief that is missing in the other situation. Your mind knows that you always have to return to hell so, as a temporary measure of relief, you focus on enjoying the road to hell instead of remembering hell itself – and, in comparison, it feels just great!
So, how do you leave both degrees of hell behind?
Some things are not as easy to do as just getting up and walking away; if they were we all would have done it many moons before now.
There are many ways to make a change. One way is to do it a step at a time, at your own pace but always in the correct direction: away from hell. Like Lot’s wife you may look back occasionally – I often do because even the terrible things bring some kind of familiar comfort – but you have to keep going. You really have to keep going.
Even in the bleakest of times: the human spirit remains indomitable and in there somewhere is the will to survive and thrive. Each of us has vast untapped resources of courage and strength. We can do it. We deserve to do it.
We deserve the freedom and happiness that really is available to us. We deserve to find something better than hell to love.
I’m doing it.
I’m on my way.